captainjonnitkessler:

You guys have GOTTA learn to stop seeking absolution from strangers online.

If someone says “haha Americans are so self-centered they don’t know anything about other countries”, you don’t gotta jump in and explain that actually it’s not your fault because you had a bad education. Just learn from the post and move on!

If someone says “white people hate rap because they’re racist”, you don’t gotta jump in and start listing all the totally valid reasons you personally don’t like it. You don’t have to justify your music taste to strangers, just move on!

If someone says “people should be more involved in their local communities” you don’t gotta jump in and start listing all the reasons that you personally can’t leave your house and so actually the original post is really ableist. Just accept that the post doesn’t apply to you and move on!

Stop publicly demanding that the internet absolve you of sins that some random dipshit made up, it is always going to make you look bad and you’ll wind up trapped in an anxious cycle of needing external validation for every aspect of your personality. You don’t have to justify yourself to randos on the internet.

prokopetz:

prokopetz:

Live-action comedy short film about a wildlife researcher’s repeated, increasingly cartoonish failed attempts to tag members of a particular rare species for study, and their burgeoning paranoia that it’s the same specific bird every time. There is no explicit textual confirmation whether they’re correct.

ALT

You can really tell which people in the notes have worked with birds.

brosser-les-dents:

sameenbyhat:

dcmcboxers:

possessionisamyth:

If you live in the USA and you’re pleading for donations to pay your rent, bills, or get food then dial 211! Please dial 211 before the last minute!

It’s a toll free service with people who will help you find programs in your community to pay those bills, find food, and find housing! They will give you numbers to call so you can get help.

It is not 100% foolproof. Their job is to direct you to a program they believe will help your current issue, but it’s still a step up from praying random strangers online will give you enough cash before a deadline! The added benefit of these community programs, which get funded by the local government most of the time, is if there are more people using them then they can get more money to help more people.

You’re not taking resources from other people if you use your community services. Your taxes pay for them. Use them.

Dial 211 first to see if they can help, and if for some reason they can’t, then make your donation posts!

https://www.211.org/

Hi I work for my state’s 211 service. It really breaks my heart how many people only know to call us at the last minute. 211’s can provide a whole wealth of resources to use before things ever get to a cut off utility, eviction, or homelessness!

I can’t speak for all 211’s but most should also have a website detailing all the agencies in their database. if you don’t like phone calls, this can be something to reference instead.

If you don’t have health insurance but you need to see a doctor, reference 211! We list clinics that provide free or discounted general care, vision, and dental services to low income households and people without insurance! Many hospitals also have financial aid policies that can severely reduce your bill if you had an expensive procedure!

If you’re stuck in a dead end job or need educational resources reference 211! There are a lot of programs focused on providing basic adult education as well as trade skills or other high demand fields! State governments are generally more interested in funneling people into work than providing benefits, but you can still use this to your advantage especially if you have some form of disability but are still able to work. That includes if you’re neurodiverse or have mental health issues! Most of these programs are extremely underutilized.

If you believe you qualify for public benefits but the bureaucracy of the process is in your way, reference 211! There are agencies specifically geared towards helping people obtain the benefits they qualify for- for free!

If you need help with your taxes-

If you need help finding a pro bono lawyer-

If you need help finding affordable housing/section 8 housing-

If you need help finding food pantries-

If you need help paying for your prescriptions-

If you need help obtaining disability aids or assistive technology-

If you need help finding transportation options-

If you need help following a natural or personal disaster (like a home fire)-

If you need help repairing a home you or your family owns or it needs modifications to be accessible-

If you need Queer resources-

Reference your 211!!!!!

I had no idea what 211 was before working for it but I wish I had. I’ve learned so much about what resources are actually available to the community even in a ho hum area of the country like my state. I’ve saved my partner literally thousands of dollars just from the medical resources I’ve gathered.

Not enough young people know about or utilize these services but they are there for you!

P. S.

This isn’t an intended use of 211, but I like to reference the agency listings when I look for jobs. Many of the agencies listed are non-profits which, while they certainly are not perfect, generally have lower barriers of entry to decent paying jobs with benefits. The work environments tend to be much kinder and at least pretend to be forward thinking. You’re more likely to find jobs without as many people applying as well, especially if they’re only advertising their positions through their own website.

Homepage

Get help paying bills, finding food, and locating other resources near you. Call 211 now for confidential help from a caring expert.

211.org

Oh my goodness. Sharing this because maybe your state has something to help you see a dentist! If it’s been a while, please see I’d you have any dental services in your area. It’s really so important to see a dentist.

liminalbeauty:

madgastronomer:

hyde-the-toad-bard:

brothermouse-skeleton:

tanoraqui:

inthefallofasparrow:

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hexenmond:

saintfelina:

Image description: a tweet by divinelydaria.

saw an inspiring video that said you need to have 4 hobbies.

create, consume, cavort, commune

create: bring something to life
consume: appreciate the art of another
cavort: move your body daily
commune: have a community to socialize with

end image description.

I think you need hobbies that do all four things but the number of hobbies needed to cover all these needs may vary. Some hobbies pull double/triple duty. Some hobbies can cause repetitive stress injuries so it’s good to have a few different ones that fulfill the same need so you can rotate to get the fulfillment without the carpal tunnel.

Tumblr really is aging.

This is true tho.

Misread this as ‘you need to have 4 hobbits’

also true! there’s a really famous three-volume self-help guide about that!

unless all you’re doing is liberating a single mountain from a dragon, in which case you can probably get by with just one, so long as you also have a lot of dwarves.

The exchange rate is three dwarves to one hobbit, if anyone was wondering

And I get 4 dwarves and a wizard left over let’s fucking go!

The Seven Hobbits of Highly Effective People

This went in directions unforetold.

carolxdanvers:

asshiieee-deactivated20230801:

wizardshark:

Being nice to someone you don’t like is not manipulation btw it’s being civil

Mmm no, this is like seeking validation. Ofc it’s best to be nice but if I don’t like you or we both dislike eachother, then there’s no reason for us to communicate or be around eachother. It’s not about being immature, I would much rather not put myself in such a situation.

Have you ever had a job

estrogenesis-eeveeangelion:

estrogenesis-eeveeangelion:

estrogenesis-eeveeangelion:

step one: be extremely depressed during covid-19 quarantine

step two: in your diffidence, leave many half-drunk glasses of water around your apartment

step three: your cat, who is stupider than any other mammal on earth, living or dead, starts drinking from your many abandoned water cups

step four: the cat now believes these are for her

step five: years later, you keep a glass of water on your bed side stand. not such a strange sight. however, it is the cat’s glass of water. she loves it. she drinks from it, she sleeps beside it on the bed next to your pillow to jealously guard it from harm, she cries when the level gets too low and she can’t cram her little head in far enough to reach the water. when overnight guests are there you have to explain that even if they are parched in the night, they don’t wanna drink the glass of water, because that is the cat’s glass of water.

slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp

slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp slurp

you know how easy it was to get this picture? i picked her up, smooched her on her little head, put her down on the bed facing it, and she went “!!!! ooomye glase ofwater🥰” and started slurpin

inbabylontheywept:

People are so much more sad, and desparate, and lonely than you think. I have had three incidents in the last four months were a technician I was working with was being either dangerously unfocused (we work with high voltage), or just flat out angry with their coworkers, and every time when I just pulled them aside to say hey, this isn’t you, you’re nice, and you’re competent, so something must be up - what can I do to help - they have responded by bursting into tears. One guy was struggling to get his wife moved into a care home, one guy just got served divorce papers, and the other hadn’t slept a wink the night before because his daughter had the pukes.

I haven’t spent my whole life responding to people being rude, or stupid, or dangerous with knee jerk compassion. It’s a new habit. The first time I did that as the lead for my lab, it was because the guy genuinely was so good natured that I knew something had to be off. But the other two times were just me going, alright, lets see if it always goes this well, and so far, it has. I’m almost 30, and I just figured out that the #1 reason people are shitty are because they are going through shit.

I don’t think you have, like, a moral obligation to respond to people being jerks with knee jerk compassion. But it has made my life so much easier the last four months that I would recommend trying. For your own sake. Please.

(I’ll step off my soapbox now. Enjoy your Sunday.)

dduane:

redgoldsparks:

Self Care Tips From Tumblr: When you feel like everyone hates you, sleep. When you feel like you hate everyone, eat. When you feel like you hate yourself, shower. Someone out there feels better because you exist. 

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miiilowo:

miiilowo:

where is my favorite painting i need to find my favorite painting

a break in their day by david hettinger. i loveyou

teaboot:

teaboot:

what annoys me about explaining evolution to people who don’t think it’s real is that everyone’s idea of how it works seems to be from this

Whereas the reality is far more like

Was not expecting this many of you to resonate with Millennium Death Plinko